Reconnect With What Is Sacred

In many traditions, this is a sacred season — a time of reflection, transformation, and renewal.

In the Vedic tradition, this marks the beginning of a New Year, a time when prayers are offered for health, prosperity, joy, and success.

In the Hebrew tradition, it is the season of counting the Omer — 49 days of intentional reflection. Each evening, a blessing is recited, and this week’s focus is on chesed — loving-kindness.

In Christianity, this is Holy Week, culminating in Easter Sunday. It’s a time to turn inward, deepen faith, and prepare the heart and mind for the mystery and miracle of resurrection.

No matter your spiritual path — or whether you follow one at all — this moment invites us all to pause and reconnect with what is sacred.

I also want to gently remind you: any moment can become sacred when we bring intention to it. Creating a simple ritual for a birthday, baby shower, graduation, or life transition can add deep meaning and beauty to any occasion.

Rituals help us honor where we are and mark what matters most. If you’re planning a special gathering and want to infuse it with more soul and connection, I’d be honored to help you design something unique and heartfelt.

In the meantime, I invite you to count your blessings. Let this simple act open the door to grace. Gratitude, after all, is a universal prayer — one that reminds us that life itself is holy.

With love,
Barbara

The Ancient Origins of Valentine’s Day: Love as a Ritual for Transformation ❤️

When we think of Valentine’s Day, we picture chocolates, flowers, and gifts—but did you know this day of love is rooted in ancient rituals, sacred traditions, and powerful symbols that have transcended time?

A Love Ritual from the Ancients

Long before Hallmark cards and candlelit dinners, the Romans celebrated Lupercalia, a festival honoring fertility, ancestors, and the cycle of rebirth. Single women placed their names into urns, where bachelors would draw lots to determine a match—sometimes for a night, sometimes for a year.

In medieval France and England, this practice evolved: men wore their beloved’s name on their sleeve (where we get the phrase wearing your heart on your sleeve) and pledged to care for her for a full year.

The Story of St. Valentine

One legend says that in the 3rd century, Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage, believing that unattached men made better soldiers. A compassionate Christian priest named Valentine defied this decree, secretly marrying couples. When discovered, he was imprisoned and ultimately executed on February 14th. Before his death, he sent a letter to the jailer’s daughter, signing it “From your Valentine”—a phrase we still use today.

Through the centuries, these traditions endured: handwritten love notes, heartfelt poetry, and the exchange of gifts as symbols of devotion. In the Victorian era, pressed flowers and scented letters were believed to hold the essence of the sender’s emotions. 

A Valentine’s Ritual: Love as an Act of Devotion

Whether you are in a relationship or single, love always begins within. When we nurture love within ourselves, we become a magnet for deeper, healthier relationships.

If you are in a relationship:

• Reignite passion—reflect on what drew you together in the first place.

• Heal miscommunication—shift the focus from criticism to appreciation.

• Renew your vows—remind your partner what you love about them and commit to nurturing your bond.

If you are single:

• Treat yourself as precious—love yourself the way you want to be loved.

• Set an intention for love—what do you truly desire in a partner?

• Indulge in self-care—buy yourself flowers, take yourself to brunch, start a creative project.

• Know that love is everywhere—the best place to meet someone isn’t a dating app, it’s in the flow of life when you’re doing what brings you joy.

Love as a Daily Practice

Imagine how different your life would be if every day were Valentine’s Day—not about commercialized romance, but about true, deep, intentional love. Love for yourself. Love for your partner. Love for your friends, family, and community.

And let’s not forget Mother Earth—the original source of love and abundance. This Valentine’s Day, offer a rose to the earth as a token of gratitude. Let’s nurture and cherish her as we do our own hearts.

May this be a season of love, renewal, and transformation.

Gift yourself and your loved ones with my magical aromatherapy sprays: Of all of our 5 senses, smell is the one thing that goes directly to the brain, thereby influencing our emotions and physical health. Shop Here.

With love,
Barbara

Press Pause This Thanksgiving 🕯️

Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. Yet, for many years, I didn’t reflect deeply on its true essence—gratitude. That changed almost 30 years ago when my father passed away. His loss reshaped my understanding of life’s fragility, making family and meaningful connections a central focus.

This year, I’m celebrating both Thanksgiving and Friendsgiving, embracing change and creating new rituals to support the life I’m living now.

One of my favorite traditions is having each person light a candle and share what they’re grateful for. I also light a special candle to honor loved ones who are no longer with us, except in spirit. This simple ritual brings a sense of intimacy and connection, strengthening the bonds that tie us to our past and carry us into the future.

In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world, we often find ourselves more stressed than connected during the holidays. Our relationships—already stretched thin by busy schedules—can become even more complicated under the pressure of holiday expectations. The season between Thanksgiving and New Year’s has become less about meaning and more about material concerns—finding the perfect gifts, hosting the perfect dinner, or dressing just right.

Let’s take a step back. This Thanksgiving, I invite you to refocus on what truly matters: connection, love, and gratitude.

A Simple Ritual for Deeper Connection

• Gather your family or friends in a quiet moment.

• Have a plate with small candles on it. Pass it around, inviting each person to light a candle and share something they’re grateful for.

• Light one additional candle to honor loved ones who are no longer with you in person but remain present in spirit.

This ritual creates a sacred space for heartfelt connection and appreciation, grounding your celebration in meaning and unity.

Tips to Prevent Holiday Stress

As we head into the holiday season, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Here are a few tools to help you navigate this time with grace and ease:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
   If you’re grieving or far from loved ones, give yourself permission to feel your emotions. Once acknowledged, you can shift your focus. Volunteering at a local shelter or community center is a powerful way to channel your energy and find connection.

2. Be Flexible
   Life changes, and so do traditions. Embrace the flow. If a loved one can’t join in person, set up a virtual connection. If dietary preferences shift, make room for new dishes alongside the classics.

3. Avoid Overspending
   Focus on the spirit of giving rather than the cost of gifts. Homemade presents or shared experiences often carry more meaning than anything money can buy.

4. Incorporate Relaxation
   Pause to breathe, stretch, or take a brisk walk in nature. Plan moments of solitude to recharge during this busy season.

5. Set Boundaries
   Protect your energy by saying no when necessary. Delegating tasks and letting go of the need to do it all will help you stay grounded and present.

6. Find Joy in the Moment
   Laughter and play release happiness hormones, lifting your spirit and the energy of those around you.

7. Release Perfectionism
   Let go of comparisons and impossible standards. Focus on authenticity and connection, rather than trying to meet others’ expectations.

This Thanksgiving let’s remember the power of gratitude, love, and connection to make each moment sacred. When we press pause to appreciate the people in our lives and the beauty of now, we create lasting memories that transcend the holiday season. Wishing you a season filled with peace, joy, and heartfelt connection!

Until next time,
Barbara

New Moon, Diwali, Samhain & More: A Week of Transformation & Honoring Ancestors

This week brings powerful energies of transformation, ancestral connection, and intention-setting. As we approach the New Moon in Scorpio and the Celtic festival of Samhain, we’re invited to pause, honor our roots, and connect deeply with our own inner strength. It’s a time to center ourselves and align with our highest intentions—for personal growth, healing, and even collective peace. And the Hindu Festival of Diwali blesses us with the prosperity we all require to walk our spiritual path with practical feet.

I want to dedicate this newsletter to my dear friend Mark Musters, who recently passed. For those of you who have visited my NYC apartment or seen my videos, you may have noticed the magnificent fig tree that Mark encouraged me to buy. Every day, I’m reminded of his generous spirit and the vibrant energy he brought into my life.

This Week's Powerful Energies:

• New Moon in Scorpio: Embrace transformation and rebirth.

• Samhain: The Celtic New Year and origin of Halloween—a sacred time to honor ancestors as the veil between realms is thin.

• Día de los Muertos: A vibrant celebration of loved ones who have passed.

• Navratri: A Hindu Festival of Lights, celebrating the victory of light over darkness and the blessings of the goddess Lakshmi for prosperity.

With early voting underway in the U.S., this time also calls for us to hold steady, send peace into the world, and approach these changes with a calm, grounded spirit.PLEASE VOTE!!

Join Me for Grounding and Intention-Setting Events

Let’s come together to honor these significant energies and cultivate resilience and peace. Whether you want to honor your ancestors, set a personal intention, or align with the collective for a peaceful election, I’m offering several gatherings this week to guide you. Visit the Events page to learn more.

Until next time,
Barbara

Honoring the Divine Feminine: Rituals for Navratri 🌟

We are currently in the sacred Hindu festival of Navratri (nine nights of the Goddess), which honors Shakti, the Divine Feminine. During this time, we seek spiritual cleansing, guidance, and enlightenment from the Divine Mother. Whether you practice this traditional holiday or wish to connect with the Divine Feminine energy within you, these next few days are powerful for transformation.

Navratri Breakdown:

 We have just finished the first 3 days where we focused on the goddess Durga- inner power and strength. If you wish, take some quiet time to reflect on her ability to help you navigate daily conflicts and awaken within you the spiritual power that you require currently.

• October 7-9: Focus on Wealth, Love, and Generosity
  Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth and prosperity, guides us during these days. Take a moment to write down the qualities you want to embody—whether it’s kindness, abundance, or love. Select one to focus on each day and make it part of your practice. If you want to dive deeper, I will be doing a special Prosperity Activation on Tuesday, October 8th. See upcoming events.

• October 10-12: Tap into Your Inner Wisdom
  As we shift to Sarasvati, the goddess of wisdom, reflect on what teachings or insights you wish to gain. Journal, chant sacred mantras, or write poetry. Commit to taking one action each day that aligns with your spiritual goals.

Mantra for Wealth and Fulfillment:

Invoke the energy of the Divine Feminine by chanting the powerful mantra: OM KLEEM SHREEM HREEM SWAHA.

Repeat this mantra 108 times—whether broken into smaller sets or in one sitting—to call in beauty, wealth, and the fulfillment of your deepest desires.

Until next time,
Barbara

Blessing Ritual for Siblings and Friends 💕

I’ve just emerged from an extraordinary experience facilitating the Rewire and Renew retreat, where a beautiful tapestry of souls, aged 28 to 87, gathered to connect, heal, and grow. This retreat reaffirmed my deep belief that we are all on this journey together. When we open our hearts to one another, we unlock the true essence of happiness and peace.

As we approach the Hindu festival of Raksha Bandhan, or Rakhi, on Monday, August 19th, I invite you to reflect on its profound message. Traditionally, this festival celebrates the bond of love and protection between siblings. A sister ties a red string (raksha) on her brother’s right wrist as a symbol of affection and protection, originally made from cotton string but now ranging from sterling silver to beads and baubles. In return, the brother gives her a gift and vows to protect her. The raksha represents the strengthening of the bond between sisters and brothers.

Even if you don’t follow the Hindu tradition, I believe we can all embrace the spirit of Rakhi. Inspired by the Bengali poet Rabindranath Tagore, who envisioned Rakhi as a celebration of universal kindness, let’s use this day as an opportunity to spread blessings, not just among siblings, but to all.

A Simple Ritual with Profound Impact:

This Rakhi, I encourage you to create or buy simple cotton strings, or anything that resonates with you, and offer them to your siblings, friends, and neighbors as a symbol of blessing, respect, and friendship.By taking this small step to honor one another, we fortify the bonds that hold us together and lay the groundwork for a more compassionate world.

Let’s see what happens when we open our hearts. Who says we can’t change the world, one string at a time?

With love and light,
Barbara

Harnessing the Energy of August Through Ritual 🌽

In the Northern Hemisphere, August is a month of lazy summer days at the beach, iced tea, fresh picked corn and luscious fruits and vegetables. Yet, we forget that our ancestors used this time to harvest the first crops of grain, wheat, and oats.

The tradition in Northern Europe was to celebrate the beginning of the harvest on or around August 1st. It is called Lammas - sometimes called Lughnasadh after the god Lugh-of craftsmanship. This was midway between the summer solstice and the autumn equinox.

It was meant to remind us to be grateful for what we have now and to acknowledge the turning of the seasons. It was a great celebration of the baking of bread from the first wheat harvest as each person participated in honoring Mother Earth. We must remember how important grains were and still are to most of the world. 

Many Native American tribes also celebrate the harvest during this time as the Corn Mother. The Green Corn Ceremony, which is tied to the ripening of the corn crops, is marked with dancing to give thanks to the Great Spirit/Mother, feasting and religious observations. Before any new corn can be eaten, there are rituals of purification and forgiveness. 

HANDFASTING

During the 15th and 16th Century, couples participated in hand-fasting ceremonies at Lammas fairs across Europe. Handfasting was a performed by a couple in front of a witness or two. They joined hands and declared themselves united, sealing it with a kiss. These were trial year- and -a day marriages and one had to renew them more often than traditional wedding vows. If at the end of the trial the couple felt it was not right, they were free to go their separate ways.

LAMMAS RITUAL

I want to share a ritual that my soul-sister Deborah Roth and I did in central park pre-covid. You will need some corn husks, corn kernels, raffia, or string.

1.Take some time to reflect and journal on what you have harvested this season since the Spring Equinox.

Based on fears being transformed, what are your hopes for this harvest? What are your gifts and skills to support those hopes? Where do you need help?

2. Write your harvest intention on a husk with a permanent marker and pick as many corn kernels as you need to represent your hopes/skills/gifts. Then wrap them in the corn husk and tie with raffia or string—each knot represents support, what you need to ask for/do to manifest intention. When you are finished, find a place in nature and offer it to Mother Nature. 

Have Fun, Give Thanks and Be conscious of how you treat our Planet!

Make sure to check out upcoming events.

Until next time,
Barbara

Embrace the Joy of May: Celebrating Beltane and New Beginnings 🌸

May 1st beckons us with its promise of new beginnings and abundant fertility. Across cultures, this day marks the joyful onset of summer, teeming with vibrant celebrations of life, love, and renewal.

Welcome to the month of May, where the air is ripe with the energy of fertility and boundless possibilities. It is a time when the spirit of Mother Mary whispers healing and heart-opening blessings upon us all.

One of my favorite ways to honor this season is through the ancient tradition of Beltane or May Day. This fiery festival ignites our senses with bonfires, dancing around the Maypole, and an exuberant outpouring of primal energy. Originally symbolizing the union of masculine and feminine energies, the Maypole stands tall amidst a riot of colors and laughter, weaving a tapestry of joy and fertility.

Years ago, I embraced this tradition by crafting my own Maypole, a beacon of celebration perched atop my roof. I was teaching a class in spirituality for a group of young children, so this fit in perfectly. As the children danced around it, their laughter and movement adorned the sky with a quilt of colors, a testament to the vibrancy of spring and the abundance of life. And the adults had a great time too. Watch our joyful celebration unfold here!

Beltane is a time to honor the sacred union of Earth and sky, where offerings of gratitude usher in blessings of health, fertility, and abundance. From the ancient Celts driving cattle through balefire smoke to the Romans adorning their hair with flowers, each tradition echoes the timeless rhythm of nature's fertility.

BELTANE RITUAL

Let us embrace the spirit of giving by sharing flowers adorned with ribbons, each carrying wishes for the season ahead. Give them to friends, family and strangers. This act of kindness harkens back to the early peace marches in New York, where daffodils were symbols of hope and unity for a better world.

You can also write wishes for the season on cards or stones and give these out as well. And remember, as the morning dew kisses your face, it bestows upon you the beauty and vitality of the season, a gentle reminder of the magic that surrounds us.

As we welcome early summer's warmth and vitality, (in the northern Hemisphere) may we dance with joy, embrace new beginnings, and nurture the seeds of fertility within our hearts and minds.

With love and blessings,
Barbara

Exploring the Ancient Origins of Valentine's Day: A Journey Through History 💗

As Valentine's Day approaches, let's take a moment to uncover the rich tapestry of traditions and rituals that have shaped this holiday.

Lupercalia: Tracing Valentine's Day Back to Ancient Rome

Did you know that the roots of Valentine's Day can be traced back to the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia? This fertility celebration, held in mid-February, honored the coming of spring, fertility, and the nurturing of love. Priests would perform rituals involving the sacrifice of a goat and the gentle tapping of women with strips of its skin, symbolizing purification, and fertility blessings. While these customs may seem unconventional to us today, they were integral parts of ancient Roman culture and beliefs.

The Legend of Saint Valentine: Love in the Face of Adversity

One of the most enduring stories associated with Valentine's Day is that of Saint Valentine, a Christian priest who defied Emperor Claudius II's decree against marriage. Despite the risks, Valentine continued to perform marriages in secret, believing in the power of love to transcend obstacles. His compassionate actions, including the famous letter he wrote while in prison to the jailer's daughter signed "From your Valentine," exemplify the timeless ideals of love, sacrifice, and devotion.

Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve

In the Middle Ages in France and England the ritual of picking a single girl’s name out of an urn was a popular tradition. Once a bachelor picked a name,  then took it a step further though, and would draw a heart on his sleeve—which is where wearing your heart on your sleeve comes from! He would then commit to taking care of her for the whole year. An intriguing idea regardless of gender or sexual orientation………

Rituals Through the Ages: From Love Notes to Modern Expressions

Throughout history, expressions of love have taken myriad forms, from handwritten love notes exchanged between lovers to the rise of commercialized greeting cards in the 19th century. Each era has brought its own customs and traditions, reflecting the evolving nature of romance and affection. Today, technology allows us to connect instantly with loved ones through e-cards and messages, but the sentiment remains the same: a heartfelt expression of love and appreciation.

Celebrating Love: Rituals for Connection and Self-Care

As we prepare to celebrate Valentine's Day, let's not only honor our romantic relationships but also cultivate love and connection in all aspects of our lives. Whether it's through renewing our vows, practicing self-care, or expressing gratitude for the beauty of nature, let's embrace rituals that nourish our hearts and souls.

Join the Conversation

I invite you to join the conversation and share your thoughts on the ancient origins of Valentine's Day and the rituals that hold meaning for you. How do you celebrate love in your life, and what traditions do you cherish? Let's celebrate the spirit of Valentine's Day together, honoring love in all its forms.

PS: Make sure to check out our Upcoming Events.

With love and gratitude,
Barbara

Rituals To Do on Halloween

In all transparency, I love Halloween. As a kid, it meant candy, costumes, and trick-or- treating. Today, as a New Yorker, it means one of the biggest parades of the year with a focus on fun and celebration.

Yet, Hallows or Hallomas started out as a festival to honor the Crone, -the wise grandmother. Over the years it has been transformed and commercialized into wicked old witches flying on broomsticks with black cats. Even the cauldron has changed meaning as it represented the womb of the Goddess –a symbol of rebirth.

For the Celts, it is called Samhain- summers end- and it is the beginning of the Celtic New Year. From darkness, endings and death comes light and rebirth. Something we all need to remember.

This is a holy time when the veil between the worlds is thin. Many cultures believe that the ancestors return to visit at this time and can communicate with the living.

In Ireland, it is believed that the fairies come out on this special night. One of these days I will write about my personal experience up in Lilydale where I saw fairies for the first time.

Honoring Ancestors

In Mexico and over Latin America, El Dia del las Muertes – Day of the Dead – (Nov 1st and 2nd) is celebrated at the cemetery. Families sweep the graves, bring food, create altars with marigolds and sugar skulls and celebrate those who have died. It is also a way to teach children that death is part of life and not to fear it.

Christians all over the world celebrate All Souls Day (Nov 1) to remember all 
Saints and Martyrs and All Saints Day (November 2) to pray that all those who have passed will rest in peace.

Rituals to Do

In the true spirit of Halloween let us take some time to honor our ancestors and to share their gifts and history with our children and community

Why not make this Halloween a time to honor our elders by asking them to share stories of their past. Personally, I love doing video interviews. 

And remember that we are the ancestors of the future, so include your stories here as well.

Until next time,
Barbara

Invoke The Energy Of The Great Mother For Comfort And Protection

This week we have 3 powerful goddesses who are said to visit the earth plane to help fight our internal and external battles during the Hindu Festival of Navratri.

It is believed that this is the time when the Shakti power is most available for protection, destroying dark forces and obstacles, bestowing supernormal perception, and giving us health and abundance.

No matter what your religion, this is a powerful time to invoke the energy of the Great Mother for the comfort and protection you require during these turbulent times.

The three goddesses celebrated at this time are:

DURGA: Powerful aspect to release negative and destructive energy. Let her light your source of internal power to clear out toxic habits, thoughts, and patterns both personally and globally.

LAKSHMI: She represents both the physical aspects of wealth and the ability to use it to contribute great worth to the world. 

SARASWATI: Goddess of enlightenment and spiritual wisdom. She guides you to discern right from wrong and to activate your powers of communication.

Meditate on these aspects this week and see what comes to you.

This is the general Navaratri mantra you can chant each night if you feel called. Do it 108 times with devotion and intention.

OM AIM HREEM KLEEEM CHAMUNDAYE VICHCHE SWAHA 

AUM   AYM   HREE-M   KLEE-M   CHA-MUN-DAYEE   
                          VISHAY- SHA  - SWA-HA

Currently, there is an unusually large amount of emotional and mental energy that is congesting and creating disturbances in our bodies and homes. It is important to clear out this energy so that positive energy can flow into your body, home, and place of business.

If you would like to schedule an energy clearing, please reach out to me. Clearings can be done in person, via Zoom or FaceTime.

Until next time,
Barbara

Ritual Of New Beginnings🕯️

Fasting and contemplation are a major part of my ritual on Yom Kippur (the Holiest Day of the Year in Judaism). No matter where I am in the world, I stop and spend a day fasting and in prayer. I have learned that there is a power in stopping and unplugging from my ordinary life.  When I can quiet my mind, Spirit has the opportunity to share ideas with me….It is time when I can get a new perspective on my current situation and on the world.

This has always been a time of reflection; looking at the things I did that worked and those that did not. And I know that Spirit is always showing me my “shadow” aspects reflected in the people and situations I have around me. As much as possible, I use this time to take back my projections that I have put on others.

During this practice there are two times when traditionally we ask God to forgive us and release us from  any vows we have made to ourselves and God, and then again we ask forgiveness for anything we have done that has harmed another.

I look at this as a time to examine my actions without having to carry the heaviness around into the next year. It is a way of wiping the slate clean and then re-committing to becoming the person I choose to grow into. I choose to connect to the higher frequency of love and wisdom to make a positive difference in the world.

As I think of the children of the future looking back at us, it is a reminder that we are the ancestors of the future and therefore the choices we make today ripple through time, impacting the world for generations. It underscores the importance of living with integrity, compassion, and wisdom.

Yom Kippur not only honors the traditions of Judaism but also It's a testament to the transformative power of ritual and reflection. No matter what your religion or spiritual practice is, may this sacred day continue to bring you clarity, forgiveness, and a renewed sense of purpose.

RITUAL OF NEW BEGINNINGS

1. Take some clay or play dough.

2. Create a symbol or figure that represents you.

3. Sit quietly and focus on things you want to create or change.

4. Bless it with health, wealth, the potential for spiritual growth , wisdom, creativity, love and/or anything else you desire..

5. Visualize yourself with these new qualities.

6. Keep it on your altar as a reminder of the New You.

PS: Make sure to check out our upcoming events.

Until next time,
Barbara

Using This Full Moon Energy to Generate Your Dreams

In the Northern Hemisphere, August is a month of lazy summer days at the beach, iced tea, fresh picked corn and luscious fruits and vegetables. Yet, we forget that our ancestors used this time to harvest the first crops of grain, wheat, and oats.

The tradition in Northern Europe was to celebrate the beginning of the harvest on or around August 1st—it is called Lammas, or sometimes called Lughnasadh after the god Lugh-of craftsmanship. This was midway between the summer solstice and the autumn equinox.

It was meant to remind us to be grateful for what we have now and to acknowledge the turning of the seasons. It was a great celebration of the baking of bread from the first wheat harvest as each person participated in honoring Mother Earth. We must remember how important grains were and still are to most of the world. 

Many Native American tribes also celebrate the harvest during this time as the Corn Mother. The Green Corn Ceremony, which is tied to the ripening of the corn crops, is marked with dancing to give thanks to the Great Spirit/Mother, feasting and religious observations. Before any new corn can be eaten, there are rituals of purification and forgiveness.

HANDFASTING

During the 15th and 16th Century, couples participated in hand-fasting ceremonies at Lammas fairs across Europe. Handfasting was performed by a couple in front of a witness or two. They joined hands and declared themselves united, sealing it with a kiss. These were trial year- and -a day marriages and one had to renew them more often than traditional wedding vows. If at the end of the trial the couple felt it was not right, they were free to go their separate ways.
 

FULL SUPER MOON IN AQUARIUS

According to astrologer Lisa Zimmerman, this Super Moon in Aquarius rules authenticity, independence, rebellion, revolution, innovation and your community. You may be shifting your relationships to your tribe as you evolve and grow. All Full Moons can be highly emotional, so take a deep breath and do whatever you can to stay proactive rather than reactive.
 

LAMMAS RITUAL

I want to share a ritual that my soul-sister Deborah Roth and I did in central park pre-covid. You will need some corn husks, corn kernels, raffia, or string.

1. Take some time to reflect and journal on what you have harvested this season since the Spring Equinox. Based on fears being transformed, what are your hopes for this harvest? What are your gifts and skills to support those hopes? Where do you need help?

2. Write your harvest intention on a husk with a permanent marker and pick as many corn kernels as you need to represent your hopes/skills/gifts. Then wrap them in the corn husk and tie with raffia or string—each knot represents support, what you need to ask for/do to manifest intention. When you are finished, find a place in nature and offer it to Mother Nature. 

 Have Fun, Give Thanks and Be conscious of how you treat our Planet.

Until next time,
Barbara

Memorial Day Meaning and Ritual

Memorial Day Weekend is the unofficial start to summer vacation in the USA. When I think of Memorial Day I have images of backyard barbecues, public pools opening, beach picnics, and taking out my summer clothes. And, traditionally, you could only wear white after Memorial Day (personally that never made any sense to me and luckily no one cares anymore).

However, the real meaning of this holiday commemorates soldiers who have died in the war. I never really knew the origin, so I did some research and want to share it with you.

Originally Memorial Day was known as Decoration Day and was created to honor the soldiers who had died after the Civil War. In 1868 Maj. Gen. John A. Logan, national commander of the Grand Army of the Republic, declared that Decoration Day should be observed on May 30 and flowers were to be placed on the graves of Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery.  

It is believed that date was chosen because flowers would be in bloom all over the country and it did not commemorate any special battle. However, the South refused to acknowledge the day, honoring their dead on separate days until after World War I (when the holiday changed from honoring just those who died fighting in the Civil War to honoring Americans who died fighting in any war).

National Moment of Remembrance:

In 2000 President Bill Clinton signed the National Moment of Remembrance Act. This year on Memorial Day (May 29th) Americans are asked to observe a moment of remembrance at 3:00 p.m. local time. As the Moment of Remembrance founder Carmella La Spada states: “It’s a way we can all help put the memorial back in Memorial Day.”

As a conscious ritual, let us all make a commitment to embodying peace. As the song goes, “Let peace begin with me”.

Until next time,
Barbara

Kicking Off The Spring Season & The Astrological New Year 🌸

Can you feel the energy shift? This week is the beginning of Aries (the first sign of the Zodiac), the Spring Equinox (in the Northern Hemisphere), Nowruz- the Iranian or Persian New Year, and the beginning of the Hindu festival of Navratri.

The New Moon in Aries is opening new energy that will allow you to supersize your dreams and goals. Take time and go inward to see what you may be birthing. Don’t forget to ask for the support you require to do this! You cannot do it alone. Let’s give up dysfunctional independence for this new season.

The Spring Equinox holds the promise of new beginnings so allow your inner child to express the joy and possibilities of this new season.

Nowruz is a time for feasting, visiting with family member and friends and exchanging gifts. 

Navratri honors the Divine Feminine/Mother. It lasts for 9 nights and offers resources for spiritual cleansing, guidance, wealth, and good fortune. 

In general, although the world may appear chaotic, we have a real opportunity to recalibrate how we want to show up in the world and the impact we want to have.

If you are ready for an upgrade and want to experience this combined powerhouse of spiritual forces, join me tonight for my New Moon/Spring Equinox/Navratri Ritual live online—sign up here.
 

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Stories About Women's Courage and Purim Rituals 🌺

When I was a kid, I used to love to dress up as Queen Esther for the holiday of Purim. I don’t think I really understood how courageous she really was. And I never understood how incredible Queen Vashti was.

Queen Vashti, the first character introduced in the story, displayed remarkable courage and leadership when she refused to follow the King’s orders, which she found degrading. Wanting to impress his guest with his wealth and beautiful wife, he orders her to display herself wearing only her royal crown. Women were expected to follow the decisions of their husbands and not complain (still going on today). She said “no way!”

Because of her actions, she was banished (possibly executed) and lost her position as Queen. In an act unheard of at the time, she modeled standing up for herself, even at great personal risk, King Achashverosh then arranged a beauty pageant to find a new queen. Encouraged by her uncle Mordechai, a Jewish girl named Esther reluctantly entered and won the contest and became the new queen, but she hid her nationality.

Meanwhile, the Jew-hating Haman was appointed Prime Minister of the Empire. Mordechai, the leader of the Jews, refused to bow to Haman, which was in defiance of the royal decree. Haman was furious, and he persuaded the King to issue a decree ordering the destruction of all the Jews.

Mordechai urged Esther to confront the King and inform him of Haman’s plans. Esther, although reluctant at first for fear of her life, agreed. As a woman, she was essentially powerless, but by using her beauty, charm, and intelligence, and by courageously taking a great risk, she revealed her Jewish identity to the King and accused Haman of attempting to destroy her people. 

Haman was hanged, Mordechai was appointed Prime Minister in his stead, and a new decree was issued, granting the Jews the right to defend themselves against their enemies.

Let us celebrate the Esthers and Vashtis of today: women who speak out because they know it is the right thing to do; who identify suffering and bring it to the public eye; who commit to awareness and education. We honor those who take risks and put themselves on the line.

TRY THESE PURIM TRADITIONS
 

There are two traditions central to the observance of Purim:

1. Giving money to the poor
2. Giving gifts to our neighbors.

The intention is to build community and connection - and create a spirit  of generosity and responsibility.

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Do you feel it is time to explore new ways of being in the world but are not sure how? It is time to step into the greatness that you were meant to be.

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Things You Didn't Know About Valentine's Day ❤️‍🔥

Throughout the ages, rituals associated with Valentine’s Day have been focused on men or women making a commitment to taking care of their partners. In fact, in the Middle Ages in France and England there was a ritual where a single man picked a single girl’s name out of an urn; he would then commit to taking care of her for the whole year. The bachelor then took it a step further, though, and would draw a heart on his sleeve—which is where wearing your heart on your sleeve comes from! 

Throughout the ages men and women continued to write love notes to each other, much as the Roman Priest Valentine did in the 3rd Century. In France and England, they crafted the art of caring poems and used to sign them with just a heart if they didn’t know how to write. In the 17th and 18th century, small gifts were also exchanged at this time. Greeting cards only began to be popular in the 19th century. This was an easy way to show affection to another in a European society that was rarely overly emotional. 

Yet for many people Valentine’s Day is the loneliest day of the year next to New Year’s Eve. Our expectations are too often based on Hallmark greeting cards, movies, and social media posts. Flower shops are filled with special roses at exorbitant prices and every supermarket displays decorative boxes of chocolates for one’s sweetheart. Plus, it is almost impossible to get a reservation at a good restaurant! 

As we look at cultures around the world, we see that our American culture is a culture of individuals in couples, while many other cultures are more concerned with family and community. 

This year, let us focus on self-love. Instead of expecting someone to make us feel special, let us do something to make ourselves feel special and loved on this Valentine’s Day. We deserve love just because we are!  And our ability to receive love makes us more able to pass that love on to our friends, co-workers, family, and anyone we may encounter each day.

Remembering to nurture ourselves is an act of self-love. If we don’t treat ourselves as the precious beings that we are, no one else will. And when we do look at ourselves as valuable and worthy, we tend to take better care of ourselves overall and experience more happiness in our lives. 

If you need help releasing old negative beliefs and trauma, contact me for more information on rituals to open your heart.

Do something that makes you happy this Valentine’s Day. Get a massage, take yourself out or cook yourself a beautiful dinner, see a great movie or a show, take a class at your gym, go to a comedy club, or just visit with good friends.

On this Valentine’s Day, make a commitment to You…

COMMITMENT CONTRACT

On this appointed day, I make a sacred vow that I will always be there for myself and will support myself in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow.
I promise to love myself completely,
to console and comfort myself during difficult times,
to gently encourage myself to achieve my full potential,
to be truthful and honest with myself,
and to cherish myself for as long as I shall live.

If you want to learn more, here is a video I did about the history of Valentine’s Day.

Until next time,
Barbara

10 Tools & Rituals of Connections for Happy Holidays 🥧🕯️🧡

Anxiety is at an all-time high around the world, and we’re unfortunately more likely to get stressed out and frustrated with friends, family, and colleagues during the holidays than we are to connect deeply with them, show our appreciation and express our gratitude. Relationships have become more complicated & strained in the past few years and many are still suffering from social anxiety as we move back into the world.

I want to suggest that we shift from focusing on getting presents, wearing new outfits or posting our perfect food photos on Instagram to focusing on listening, having real conversations, and appreciating what we do have in our lives.

Let’s take a digital detox for the holidays and return to Rituals of Connections. Try these:

1. Take time to share with your family and friends. For Thanksgiving or any gathering around this time, I like to have each person light a candle before dinner and share one thing that they are grateful for. This simple ceremony creates a new intimacy and sense of connection.

2. Fast from complaining. Try it and see how much better you feel.

3. Be aware of your feelings. You may feel sad during the holidays if you are physically far away from family and friends. You don’t have to pretend to be happy, however, once you acknowledge your feelings, you then have the freedom to move on and focus on other things. Volunteering at a soup kitchen, your local church or a temple is a great way to re-focus & shift your feelings.

4. Be flexible. Things change, and we must change with them to stay in the flow of life. Include some of your favorite traditions this holiday and then be open to creating new ones. Maybe your sister is now a vegetarian, and you include a Tofurkey along with the traditional one, or you celebrate a tradition from a new friend or relative.

5. Do not overspend. Use this year to find simple ways to enjoy the holidays without going into debt. Creating more debt will add to the stress you are already feeling. Remember it is the spirit of giving that counts, not the dollar amount of the gift.

6. Do some simple relaxation exercises. Try some simple breathing exercises, move your body into an easy yoga pose, or go for a brisk walk outdoors in nature. If you are going to be around many people, plan out rest stops and alone time during your (holi)days so you will not be burnt out.

7. Set boundaries. If you never say no, your yes will never mean anything. If you don’t treat yourself as valuable, no one else will either. This can cause you to either “stuff” your feelings down within and become resentful or blow up and explode unintentionally. You don’t have to say yes to every social invitation and you don’t have to do everything by yourself. Learn to delegate.

8. Laugh and do things that bring you joy. When you laugh, your brain releases neurotransmitters like dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, which make you feel happy and content. Get together with friends and just be silly, try laughter yoga or just watch a funny movie.

9. Give up being a perfectionist! Stop comparing yourself to others or measuring your success by impossible standards, including those you see on social media.

10. Reach out to others. Facetime or Zoom with friends or family who may be feeling lonely or isolated, volunteer at your local food bank, buy toys for kids in shelters, bake cookies for your neighbors or simply be generous with your compliments and be extra kind and patient with all your interactions.

May you always have
Walls for the winds,
A roof for the rain,
Tea beside the fire,
Laughter to cheer you,
Those you love near you,
And all your heart might desire!
(Irish Blessings)

For those of you who celebrate: Happy Thanksgiving!

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Celebrating Guru Purnima + Free Guided Meditation 🙏

In the Hindu Tradition this Wednesday, July 13th, is Guru Purnima 2022: Guru Purnima is the day to commemorate the importance of Guru (teacher).

It is a time to celebrate and honor your spiritual teachers and to be open to receive their blessings of love, healing, and abundance. I recommend you take some time on Wednesday and do the following.

Center in your heart. Take a few deep breaths in and out of your heart. Feel the love you have for your teachers (past and present). Consciously send them love. Imagine how happy they are to receive it. Now open to accepting it back tenfold. Sprays to use: Love and Happiness.

All of my spiritual teachers (Amma, Hilda Charlton, Brugh Joy, Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov, Dr. Pillai) shared that transformation is only possible through the heart center.

Ground your energy. Since this is the full Moon in Capricorn, you may be feeling heightened emotions. This is a time to go slow and pay attention to what you need.

Sprays to use: Grounded, Manifest, Protect.

My gift to you today: Here is a special meditation I recorded for my friends at Sloomoo: LISTEN TO THE MEDITATION HERE.

Take the time to be gentle with yourself and others. Whenever there are big changes in the outer, major self- care is required.

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My Personal Father's Day Ritual 👨‍👧‍👦

All Full moons bring change and transformation and this one in Sagittarius is reminding us that all people and experiences that come into our lives are opportunities to learn and grow into the person we are meant to be.

As we approach Father’s Day in the USA, know that your relationship (or lack of one) with your father can trigger many emotions. If healing is called for, I highly encourage you to reach out for help.

Like many men of his generation, my father took care of his family financially, but was emotionally distant. I know at times I feel a longing to have had the kind of father who supported me unconditionally, encouraged my growth and taught me the practical tools necessary to thrive in the world.

Well, that didn't happen. I am smart enough (and have had enough therapy and spiritual teachers) to know that he did the best he could with the resources he had.

Shortly after my Dad passed, I went into the woods with my brother to do a letting go ritual. I wanted to "bury the hatchet " between us and for some bizarre reason my brother actually had my father's hatchet. (Why a man from Great Neck and South Florida had a hatchet is beyond my understanding). So, I physically buried it. My brother had a different issue. He no longer wanted to "walk in my father's footsteps" so he buried one of my father's shoes. I can't tell you how liberating that ritual was for both of us.

My brother Mark and many others that I know model the new masculine and have taken on the role of nurturer. He has very few "have tos" and has plenty of "want tos." Today children are growing up with a new model of a father: Someone who simply does what needs to be done without worrying about gender roles.

This Sunday I personally will be lighting a candle for my father -- letting myself feel the sadness of his passing and what could have been.

My ritual on Father’s Day is to eat one of his favorite foods. This year it may be Chinese soup or a piece of halvah. I also plan on writing down a list of what I learned from him and what qualities I want to claim as my own. After all, it is my inheritance.

Whatever you decide to do for this holiday, enjoy the celebration and the fathers and father figures you cherish. As my brother Mark, a father of three, so wisely said to me, "The best present for me is always feeling loved, included, and appreciated. Gifts are quite secondary."

Until next time,
Barbara