Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. Yet, for many years, I didn’t reflect deeply on its true essence—gratitude. That changed almost 30 years ago when my father passed away. His loss reshaped my understanding of life’s fragility, making family and meaningful connections a central focus.
This year, I’m celebrating both Thanksgiving and Friendsgiving, embracing change and creating new rituals to support the life I’m living now.
One of my favorite traditions is having each person light a candle and share what they’re grateful for. I also light a special candle to honor loved ones who are no longer with us, except in spirit. This simple ritual brings a sense of intimacy and connection, strengthening the bonds that tie us to our past and carry us into the future.
In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world, we often find ourselves more stressed than connected during the holidays. Our relationships—already stretched thin by busy schedules—can become even more complicated under the pressure of holiday expectations. The season between Thanksgiving and New Year’s has become less about meaning and more about material concerns—finding the perfect gifts, hosting the perfect dinner, or dressing just right.
Let’s take a step back. This Thanksgiving, I invite you to refocus on what truly matters: connection, love, and gratitude.
A Simple Ritual for Deeper Connection
Gather your family or friends in a quiet moment.
Have a plate with small candles on it. Pass it around, inviting each person to light a candle and share something they’re grateful for.
Light one additional candle to honor loved ones who are no longer with you in person but remain present in spirit.
This ritual creates a sacred space for heartfelt connection and appreciation, grounding your celebration in meaning and unity.
Tips to Prevent Holiday Stress
As we head into the holiday season, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Here are a few tools to help you navigate this time with grace and ease:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
If you’re grieving or far from loved ones, give yourself permission to feel your emotions. Once acknowledged, you can shift your focus. Volunteering at a local shelter or community center is a powerful way to channel your energy and find connection.Be Flexible
Life changes, and so do traditions. Embrace the flow. If a loved one can’t join in person, set up a virtual connection. If dietary preferences shift, make room for new dishes alongside the classics.Avoid Overspending
Focus on the spirit of giving rather than the cost of gifts. Homemade presents or shared experiences often carry more meaning than anything money can buy.Incorporate Relaxation
Pause to breathe, stretch, or take a brisk walk in nature. Plan moments of solitude to recharge during this busy season.Set Boundaries
Protect your energy by saying no when necessary. Delegating tasks and letting go of the need to do it all will help you stay grounded and present.Find Joy in the Moment
Laughter and play release happiness hormones, lifting your spirit and the energy of those around you.Release Perfectionism
Let go of comparisons and impossible standards. Focus on authenticity and connection, rather than trying to meet others’ expectations.
This Thanksgiving let’s remember the power of gratitude, love, and connection to make each moment sacred. When we press pause to appreciate the people in our lives and the beauty of now, we create lasting memories that transcend the holiday season. Wishing you a season filled with peace, joy, and heartfelt connection!
Until next time,
Barbara