The world feels very unstable right now. Every day we hear about war, financial markets going up and down, violence, loss of jobs and at the same time we see people showing up for each other, creativity blooming and new opportunities.
Yet, when I see someone struggling my instinct is to immediately fix it, help them see differently, give advice, make it better . I want relief for them , and if I am honest, relief for me, because it is hard to see suffering in those you care about it.
But time and again, I am given the message that I am not here to be the life boat, I am here to be the lighthouse.
When I think of a lighthouse, I imagine it standing at the edge of the ocean during a storm. Ships may pass through the waters- some steady, some lost, some afraid.
The lighthouse does not jump into the water to save them. It does not try and control the waves.
It’s simple, stands where it is, and shines. If it moved to jump into the water to save the ships, the light would disappear and no one would benefit.
So many times, I think love is removing pain. Fixing the situating and carrying them through the darkness. But the truth is real love says, I see the light in you even when you cannot see it in yourself. It trusts that each person has their own path, their own timing and their own inner wisdom
So, rushing in to fix everything can sometimes send a message that the other person is incapable or too fragile to take care of their own life . When we stay present and grounded without judging their situation, ,we remind them of their strength , their resilience and their divinity.
So today if someone in your life is struggling, try this gentle shift.
Instead of asking how do I fix this? Ask, how can I hold loving presence here?
Be the light house, not the lifeboat.
If this message speaks to you, I invite you to take a few quiet moments every day to strengthen your connection with your own inner light. The more we learn to rest there, the more naturally we become a source of calm and clarity for ourselves and for others.
And if you feel called to deepen that connection, I would be honored to support you through the work we do together.
With love,
Barbara
P.S. I'll be in Los Angeles the week of March 23, and I'm holding space for a few private sessions while I'm there — including Personal Alignment Sessions, Readings, Space Clearings, and one intimate Spring Visioning gathering. Spring is a powerful recalibration point, and if you feel called to work together in person, simply reply to this email and we'll find a time.
If someone comes to mind — a friend, a founder, or a collaborator standing at a new edge — feel free to make an introduction. Each season asks something new of us. Spring asks us to rise.